The prompt for today’s Ultimate Blog Challenge Day 6 June 2018. We were asked to make it another teaching moment. We was asked to Share with our visitors a valuable lesson we’ve learned that helped us overcome a challenge we have faced. This morning I will be sharing a lesson, we were asked to tell about our problem and what the outcomes were.
Bullying led to a teaching moment for our family as I let the neighbors know what happened so they could watch there children and they let me know their children know how to fight and to protect themselves. Which Charlie does as well but we don’t condone fighting as it isn’t what the Lord would want so Charlie didn’t fight back.
Then I went to talk the children’s parents that jumped on Charlie, and all the dad did be slap the kid in the mouth and say next time to call the POLICE.
After seeing the dads response, I knew why the child was the way he was. I came back inside and let Charlie know the next time I would call the Police as I wasn’t going to have other kids hurt him. Charlie begged me not to and said it isn’t the child’s fault he did it. Which I didn’t agree with and had to explain to Charlie why I would call the police, and I am glad I did as the next day he shot Charlie with a BB Gun.
I called the police, and they came out and let me know since they didn’t see it happen they couldn’t do anything to the children I would need to speak to the parents. Which has upset Charlie and made him upset with our Police Department and he is losing all respect for them which I don’t blame him.
We are having to regroup and figure out how to get Charlie to change his feelings and to trust Police Officers as all of them are not bad and will help you out. Although if I was, I am not happy with them either as I think something should have been done to the children before they hurt someone badly.
I am just trying to teach Charlie God is watching over him and he will be OKAY, and the kids will not hurt him again as I will not let him outside by himself which makes him feel like he is in jail. I PRAY that the rules in our town are changed to stop BULLYING, and our family can find a way to help that child before he ends up either killing himself or ends up in jail.
As parents, I never dreamed something like this would happen to my family.
Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
I hope you figure this situation out soon. Bullying is no fun. I’m actually dealing with something similar with my son. We’ve got boys in the neighborhood that smack him across the face, call him all kinds of names, gang up on him and steal his money. My son keeps playing with them. I finally had to put my foot down and tell him he was no longer allowed. I try to let him make his own choices, but when they keep being mean and hurting him I had to say enough is enough.
I agree with you because we have to protect our children and they need to play with children that do those things to them. Even though he might not understand your decision, not one day he will and he will appreciate it just as Charlie will. Or at least I Pray Charlie will. I Pray for the kids to stop bullying your son and I shared your comment with my family and David and Charlie said they wish you were closer as Charlie would like to be your son’s friend.
WOW, I hope the Police at least went and talked to the parents and the children! Fist one day, BB gun the next, what happens if it’s a 357 or 9mm next time? Sounds like the parents need to give their children a stern talking to. Praying that Charlie will be okay, both physically and mentally from the bullying.
Thank you, Martha my son is an incredible young man as he invited that child into our yard to play Wrestlers the other day and he came. I just Pray they can become friends and the child doesn’t hurt Charlie again because I believe the child needs to know someone wants him around. As for the police talking to the parents, they did although I don’t know what happened as they didn’t tell me.
Kids can be so mean. Sometimes I think they really do not mean it or know better. Many times, however, they do realize they are doing wrong.
I agree at times I don’t think they know better than other times I think they just want to be mean. So I Pray that somehow they will change before they end up getting into trouble that they can’t get out of.
How scary!! I really hate when nothing can be done, it makes you feel powerless as a parent, and makes kids feel unsafe in their own environment. I stand in prayer with you, and want to encourage you to perhaps take the high road to the bullies, and treat them with kindness and love (it’s obvious they don’t get enough!)
That is one thing I am teaching Charlie is to use kindness and last week one of the children came and played in our yard with Charlie and was very nice but I am not letting my guard down as he could change again so I kept checking on them. As for feeling powerless, this is exactly how I feel and why I haven’t been sleeping at night. As I feel like I failed my son.