Trauma Expert Outlines Approach to ‘Love Yourself to Health’

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NEW YORK — Trauma-informed coach Laura K. Connell mined countless books on the topic of self-sabotage and tried a multitude of modalities to heal from her own childhood trauma. The effects, if any, were short-lived, she explains.

“The behavior modification, being hard on yourself, the tough love, it wasn’t working for me,” Connell recalls. “It would work for a short time, and then I would just fall right back into the old patterns. I think that’s because I didn’t have the internal shift or the transformation that I needed to actually stop for good.”

Connell took matters into her own hands. She spent 12 years studying the dynamics of dysfunctional families, and she learned that her habits of self-sabotage were her inner child’s way of keeping her safe — a misguided form of self-protection that prevents far too many people just like her from living their lives to the fullest potential.

In her new bookIt’s Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop, Connell helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back and explains that these blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. But rather than teach tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, Connell lovingly guides readers toward a deeper understanding of the ways in which these negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem.

“What this book offers is some self-compassion for the reader, instead of tough love, and the opportunity to love yourself to health,” Connell said.

Throughout her book, Connell walks alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show readers how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the lives they desire.

“We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness,” she added. “Readers will be relieved to discover that it’s not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead.”

About the Author

Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author and coach who helps her clients uncover blind spots that lead to relationship struggles and self-sabotage. She writes about healing dysfunctional family dynamics at her website

Her guest articles have further reached millions through personal development websites Life Hack, Pick the Brain, Dumb Little Man, Thought Catalog, Highly Sensitive Refuge, the anthology Chicken Soup for the Soul, and national newspapers The Globe and Mail and Toronto Star. She hosts popular multi-speaker online retreats that have helped thousands heal from dysfunctional family trauma. She has been featured on podcasts such as The Love Fix, Adult Child and A Date with Darkness.

To learn more, visit, or follow the author on Instagram (@laurak.connell) or Twitter (@laurakconnell).

Amazon link:

It’s Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop

Publisher: HCI Books Release Date: September 12, 2023

ISBN-10: ‎0757324738 ISBN-13: ‎978-0757324734

Available on Amazon.com, BN.com and other online retailers

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