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I would like to share a new self-help book with you which I received a physical copy of for this review conducted by my family. The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death by Alexandra Wyman.
Suicide is the hardest thing people face because in the blink of and eye our loved ones are gone and more times than not we have no, clue why. We feel guilty and find ourselves asking why this happened or what could I have done to keep them from committing suicide or if I had done this, they would still be here.
Through the book I leaned that if someone I know commits suicide It didn’t have anything to do with me and I shouldn’t feel guilty. Which as a child my cousin killed himself but there is so many questions around his death that were not sure someone in his family did it and not Mark. Although, we will never know and its been so long that I never think about him.
The more I’ve online the more I see friends post this person killed themselves or this one took pills or so and so overdosed and I knew now what to say or do to help the ones left behind. The next time I heard of someone committing suicide you can bet your bottom dollar I will be sending them a copy of The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death.
The book is for adults but in the Society we live in and more and more teens committing suicide I shared the book with Charlie to prepare Charlie encase any of his friends or family commit suicide and I would suggest anyone with children that have friends in Middle or Jr. High and above should pick up a copy of The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death to help there family deal with suicide.
My daughter died of a accident which is different from suicide but I’ always asking myself what would have happened if I hadn’t let her go that day and The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death has helped me see I didn’t do anything wrong. A lot of my girls friends have lost children due to different reasons this year and I plan on sharing the book with them and seeing if they would like to start a book club so we can all share our feelings and help each of us get through the loss of our children?
About the book: The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death
Alexandra Wyman was plunged into grief when her husband died by suicide. The sudden loss of the love of her life left her reeling with unanswered questions.
In The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death, Alexandra explores her journey of mourning and healing after losing her husband. She makes sense of her grief through three phases—Shock and Awe, Now What?, and Finding the Collateral Beauty—to offer a road back to peace and joy for anyone who has lost someone close to them to suicide. The aftermath of suicide leaves loved ones in a mess of emotions. The Suicide Club shows a way forward through any anger, blame, or judgment, toward acceptance and peace.
When Alexandra Wyman lost her husband to death by suicide in 2020 – in the midst of the pandemic, she had to quickly come to terms with the loss in order to begin her self-healing journey and life as a solo parent with a one-year-old son.
Since then she has become a Grief Navigator, speaking at conferences around the world on suicide prevention including the Military Social Work & Behavioral Health Conference and the International Association of Suicide Prevention Conference. Her new memoir, The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death (Houndstooth Press / November 21, 2022 / $16.99), outlines her journey toward reframing the narrative around those who die by suicide and working with people to convert their feelings of blame and judgement to ones of love and compassion.
For those who find themselves parenting alone after their partner’s death by suicide, Wyman stresses that “Taking the time for self-care is a major part of rebuilding and moving forward. It not only helps you but also teaches your child (or others around you) that it is okay to do for yourself.”
Alexandra Wyman is an advocate and public speaker for resources in the aftermath of suicide. After she lost her husband to suicide in August of 2020, Alexandra found a need to change the language around suicide, and decided to write about it. Her memoir, The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death is an Amazon best seller.
She has spoken at a variety of conferences including Bridging the Divide Suicide Prevention and Awareness Summit 2022, 2023 Northwest Conference on Childhood Grief, and has been accepted to present at the 2023 Military Social Work & Behavioral Health Conference and the International Association of Suicide Prevention Conference 2023 in Piran, Slovenia. Alexandra has also been a guest on a variety of podcasts including The Unlock Moment, Author Hour, Resilience Unravelled, She Persisted, and My Wake Up Call with Dr. Mark Goulston. Alexandra has her own podcast called The Widow’s Club, as well. She practices pediatric occupational therapy and lives in Colorado with her son.
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Connect with Alexanda Wyman:
Instagram: @forwardtojoy
Facebook: @alexandrawymanLinkedIn: Alexandra Wyman
BIOGRAPHY
“After such a tragic death, it is possible to get to a place of peace and joy again, but to do so, we have to ride the emotional waves that include feelings of anger or resentment, whether toward our loved one who has died or others involved. Early on, I was told that this grief process is like riding a surfboard on choppy waters. Sometimes they calm down, and other times we are gasping for air. No matter what, we need to ride those waves and embrace the whole journey. Only then can we get to a place of peace.”
Alexandra Wyman is an advocate and public speaker for resources in the aftermath of suicide. After she lost her husband to suicide in August of 2020, Alexandra found a need to change the language around suicide ,and decided to write about it. Her memoir, The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death is an Amazon best seller
. She has spoken at a variety of conferences including Bridging the Divide Suicide Prevention and Awareness Summit 2022, 2023 Northwest Conference on Childhood Grief, and has been accepted to present at the 2023 Military Social Work & Behavioral Health Conference and the International Association of Suicide Prevention Conference 2023 in Piran, Slovenia.
Alexandra has also been a guest on a variety of podcasts including The Unlock Moment, Author Hour, Resilience Unravelled, She Persisted, and My Wake Up Call with Dr. Mark Goulston. Alexandra has her own podcast called The Widow’s Club, as well. She practices pediatric occupational therapy and lives in Colorado with her son. To learn more about Alexandra and her work, Check out her website at
Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
