It’s Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop by Laura K. Connell
As a child my parents were loving but they treated us children differently even as I became a adult you knew my dad loved my sister and my mom my brother. I had my granny until she passed away. When I had Suzzane my dad wanted to take her and if he had I was to go away and never come back. Even as a adult that hurt.
I try and not make my son feel like this but I know I am not a good mom at time and need to break the habits I di and having a copy of It’s Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop has helped me see what I do and to stop it because I want to break the pattern of mistreating those we love.
My best friend Debbie was treated worse than I was and she can’t afford a counselor just like me so I plan on giving her a copy of the book for Christmas I plan on sitting down with David and Charlie and reading the book with them and working on the things the Author tells us to do which is going to bring us closer together.
I hope you take the time to read the book and share it with anyone who is dealing with PTSD or childhood trauma and if you know a counselor please recommend this book to them which should be in every office. The book can help not only women but men as well.
About the book:
A guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back along with an exploration of the ways negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem.
We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness and opportunities for personal and professional fulfillment. It’s Not Your Fault helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. These blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. Rather than teaching tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, the book lovingly guides readers to explore the ways these events have impacted their lives and how this knowledge will help them access true transformation. Readers will be relieved to discover that it’s not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead.
Those who have been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques know that behavior modification doesn’t work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help for the short term, but before long old patterns emerge. Once they decide to get serious about change, however, and stop tweaking habits in the hope it will result in lasting transformation, they can create a life by design instead of default. It takes work, an internal excavation, and Laura comes alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show them how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the life they desire.
About the author: Laura k. Connell
Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author and coach who helps her clients uncover blind spots that lead to relationship struggles and self-sabotage. She writes about healing dysfunctional family dynamics at her website laurakconnell.com. Her guest articles have further reached millions through personal development websites Life Hack, Pick the Brain, Dumb Little Man, Thought Catalog, Highly Sensitive Refuge, the anthology Chicken Soup for the Soul, and national newspapers The Globe and Mail and Toronto Star. She also hosts multi-speaker online retreats that have helped thousands of attendees.
