You are dealing with your divorce case, finally get your divorce decree and realize that your upcoming family holidays are going to be without your ex-spouse. You have already got used to be with him/her, so for you this first family holidays will be a bit different. How to prepare yourself for such unusual holidays and begin to live in a proper way, we will discuss with you in this article.
The preparation for the cheap uncontested divorce is really easier than the preparation for the contested divorce for instance, so how to be ready to celebrate family holidays again after such a painful case in your life? All answers are here. Let’s begin to look at them together.
- Change a location of your usual family celebration
When you begin a new life, everything has to be new, so why not to change your surroundings and go on holiday for instance to Bali or other places of the heaven on earth? Official holidays are days off as a rule, so nobody will be against these changes. Instead of crying and sitting alone in your flat as if you are Bridget Jones is no good. You will look after such holidays even more exhausted. Think about yourself and a possibility to spend wonderful weekends somewhere far away from the place where you were so sad and enjoy your being. If you have children, for them it will be also a perfect opportunity to change a location and watch different sightseeing or else. You should totally realize that you are a person who deserves to be happy, so take your cases, and welcome to another life!
2. Visit as many friends as possible
Friends are also a second family, so if you want to tell them about your hard issues or just you want to have a funny holidays without sorrow, just call them and go! Everybody realizes how difficult it is to live after the divorce, and for sure you have lots of friends of different statuses. You can spend this or that celebration in a noisy company, at the party or at home together drinking something tasty and laughing a lot. It sounds better than be angry with the whole world. Who knows, maybe your friends have lots of the candidates to meet with you, so be more confident in yourself, stand and go towards your happy days.
3. Make the things you want
Now you are absolutely free, so nobody will tell you for sure what you should do. You can switch on your favorite movies and lie on the bed the whole day or speak by phone with your mum or going shopping and buy something interesting. All your desires can become true because you are self-independent person and you know what to do and how to spend time. Do not think about your spouse, do not think about your troubles, however, you should think about your own needs and own preferences. Is not it perfect? Have you thought about this chance to do everything you want before you began to cry? The next time you feel a grief, just think that since today nobody will argue with you about a new skirt or new pair of shoes. You are the host of your life, so use this app!
4. Create a new celebration of yours
If this celebration is so vital for you, you should celebrate it, however, you can create another celebration. You can think about the reason to celebrate and just do it. The more you think about another celebration, the faster you will be in a form and ready for the new story.
In the USA there are lots of holidays and national celebrations, so choose that one you life the most and want to repeat and go! If you are afraid to celebrate at the same place you did when you were together with your ex-spouse, choose another place and cause of being happy. Who told that New Year can be just once in a year? Buy some pine oil, spray it in the room, switch on the New Year films and your celebration will completely change!
5. Do a new haircut or the whole style
Who will expect from you any changes? You even do not expect it from yourself as well. However, it is a high time to make several changes, so go to the nearest spa salon or the beauty center and have your hair cut, done, or dried. You can even choose a new service, for instance, a chocolate mask for your body or fish pilling, the main idea is to feel yourself undeniably pretty and after this visit break all the hearts you want. Every celebration is perfect if you realize that you are the best, do not you think so? You can also go to the shopping center and buy a little black dress or anything making you happy, so who is the first to do it right now with no hesitations?
6. Believe in yourself
It is absolutely not a good idea to blame yourself for everything bad happened in your life! You have just closed another story of yours and that is it. Nobody cares about your eagerness to be guilty, so if you do not appreciate yourself, nobody will definitely do it. What should you do? Your very task is to live your own life. Go on business trips, read interesting books, deal with your family, etc. With the time pace your pain will become less and less strong, so you should take a deep breath and just wait for a while! Everything is good, you are not ill or something like that, so stop judge yourself right now!
To summarize everything told above, for sure lonely celebrations after the divorce case are sad, however, it is just for the first time! Do not think about the future in a bad view, think as if it is perfect right now, and it definitely be so. Nobody knows for sure, what can happen tomorrow, so never underestimate your fate!
Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
