In truth, there’s no such person as a perfect parent – or a perfect child.
Some common problems parents are facing is handling a temperamentally difficult child or dealing with a toddler who either wants an excessive amount of independence or hasn’t achieved enough autonomy. Parents also sometimes encounter the dilemma of a toddler who prefers friends or activities not approved of by them.
Mistakes are Okay
As a parent, you would like to acknowledge that it’s normal to feel worried, confused, angry, guilty, overwhelmed, and inadequate due to your child’s behavior. That is part of being a parent. It is futile and self-defeating to aim for perfection in the hopes of raising perfect children.
They weren’t perfect, but neither was anyone else. All parents can make mistakes in their attempt to speak and affect their children and in trying to unravel problems together. Parents need to trust themselves and their instincts. Mothers and fathers tend to possess good intuition and knowledge of their own children. Children are resilient and forgiving and typically learn and grow through their mistakes as much as their parents are resilient and forgiving, too.
Every Child is Unique
Even among children of equivalent age, there’s a variety of what’s normal within the way they develop socially, emotionally, intellectually, and physically. The maturity level could also be different for the varied qualities they are developing, including social skills, athletic abilities, and learning capabilities.
The way a toddler develops can influence his behavior and the other way around. The particular parenting style a mother or a father uses along with the child’s environment can affect the youngster’s behavior and development.
Flexible Parenting
They are also being unfair to their family. Parents shouldn’t expect to receive all their personal fulfillment from their children or from the parenting role. Parents need other activities to satisfy their self-image, and other sources of affection and nurturing. They need time to be adults and time for themselves – and an opportunity from children and parenting responsibilities.
As a parent, you would like to develop your own philosophy – one with which you are feeling comfortable – within a versatile and adaptable framework. Consider your own expectations, parenting style, and temperament, and the way they fit with each of your children and your spouse, and their own unique preferences and temperaments.
Along the way, remember that professional assistance is available if problems ever become too intense, exceed your own coping capabilities, or cause secondary difficulties like a decline in class performance, increased family stress, or serious emotional problems.
But along the way, keep your sense of humor, trust your instincts and seek help and advice early instead of late. While parenting may be a great challenge, it also can be one of the foremost rewarding and enjoyable experiences of your life.
Thank you,
Glenda, Charliue and David Cates
