This is a review for Holding On While Letting Go: Parenting Your Child Through the Four Freedoms of Adolescence Written by Carl Pickhardt. Ph D
As a parent of a TEENAGER there is days I just want to scream as he doesn’t want to listen to me. Its like living with Dr. Jekyll and My Hyde. One moment just as nice as can be and would do anything you ask. The next time mean and ugly.
I knew when all Charlie wanted to do was be on his game or phone 24/7 things needed to change. Getting David on board isn’t working. I’m at my wits end. Charlie will not help in the house. Charlie doesn’t want to do chores or schoolwork.
There is days Charlie will not eat and sleeping is out of the question. Before you ask is DRUGS involved and no, they are not. Nor it is part of the Disabilities Charlie has. I know a lot of it is parenting and us not following through on GROUNDING and standing as a united front.
I will say or do something and David doesn’t follow the rules I set. Or David will set rules and I don’t make Charlie follow through. Which isn’t good for our family or even our marriage. Things have to change or this can cause use to end up splitting up and Charlie not getting the Education he needs.
Which is why I was so happy to sit down and read Holding On While Letting Go: Parenting Your Child Through the Four Freedoms of Adolescence which has given me tips on how to make things change in our home.
I know it takes 21 days to break a bad habit and through this book I can and will get my family back on track sooner that later. If you have children and you haven’t had the opportunity to read Holding On While Letting Go: Parenting Your Child Through the Four Freedoms of Adolescence I hope you do as soon as possible.
About:
Harvard-trained psychologist and Psychology Today parenting expert Carl Pickhardt gives parents an eye-opening look at what to expect on rocky road of middle school and high school, revealing the Four Freedoms that every child must master to become a healthy adult–and how parents can adapt, encourage, and grow themselves during these tumultuous times.
Parenting a teenager is not for the faint of heart. It is during these roller-coaster years that frustrated parents find themselves at their wits’ end, barely even recognizing their offspring as they move through the teen years. Carl Pickhardt, Harvard-trained psychologist and the voice of reason behind Psychology Today‘s advice column, “Surviving (Your Child’s) Adolescence,” shares critical insights and practical tools that parents need to know as their children move through the teen years toward independence and adulthood.
There’s a reason the road is rocky–it’s supposed to be. Children must pass through “four unfolding freedoms” in order to become competent, independent, and confident adults. How easily parents can navigate these twists and turns with less hand-holding, angst, and hitting the brakes directly correlates to how successful their children will be.
The four unfolding freedoms are these:
1) freedom from rejection of childhood, around the late elementary school years, when they want to stop acting and being treated as children anymore.
2) freedom of association with peers, around the middle school years, when they want to form a second family of friends.
3) freedom for older experimentation, around the high school years, when they want to try more grown-up activities.
4) freedom to claim emancipation, around the college age years, when they decide to become their own ruling authority.
With each successive push for freedom, both parents and teens need to learn how to do less holding on to each other while doing more letting go. Dr. Carl Pickhardt will show them the way with compassion, experience, and time-tested guidance.
About the Author
Carl Pickhardt, Ph.D., is a noted psychologist, speaker, and parenting expert, now retired from private counseling practice. He received his B.A. and M.Ed. from Harvard, and his Ph.D. from the University of Texas at Austin. He is a member of the American and Texas Psychological Associations. He writes a popular parenting advice column for Psychology Today and has written some of the most practical and helpful books about important parenting issues, including: The Connected Father; Stop the Screaming,
The Future of Your Only Child and Why Good Kids Act Cruel. A prolific author, he continues to write three distinct kinds of books: illustrated psychology, of coming of age fiction, and of nonfiction parenting advice – Holding on While Letting Go the seventeenth of these parenting books. For a complete list of his books, see his website: www.carlpickhardt.com
Holding On While Letting Go: Parenting Your Child Through the Four Freedoms of Adolescence
Publisher: HCI Books
Release Date: October 4, 2022
ISBN-10: 0757324231
ISBN-13: 9780757324239
Trade Paperback, 336 pages
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Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
