As the kids in our lives get older, we might assume that they need us less: they can do more things for themselves than they did in earlier stages of life, and, well, judging by the number of eye rolls parents get from their teens, it’s assumed they don’t think too highly of us.
However, Chief Program Officer for YES Prep Public Schools and longtime educator, Nella Garcia Urban, noted that post-pandemic, teens need parental guidance and support more than ever.
Nella developed the tips below to help parents open the lines of communication and (subtly) support their teenagers this Summer.
#1: Support ways to socialize with friends
Teenagers value their friendships and social circles, and need this social interaction to develop healthy relationship habits. Being isolated in their rooms and only using phones or gaming systems to socialize does not necessarily support their development. Help them plan ways to meet up with friends in a way you feel comfortable with and ask about their friendships. It may take time for them to open up to you, but you have to attempt those conversations over and over again.
#2: Support opportunities for growth
The summer is a great time for teens to pursue a passion or learn something new. Many schools and districts offer free learning opportunities that aren’t necessarily boring (think hobbies that are also skills such as photography, entrepreneurship or web design). In many parts of the country, it’s also not too late to sign up for summer camps, so check out what’s available in your area.
#3: Take advantage of the downtime to have conversations with your teenager
The school year is busy: drop off, pickup, homework, deadlines, and extracurriculars make you feel like you’re always on the go. Teenagers are more prone to stress and less likely to engage when they are feeling the pressures of life, so spend quality time this summer connecting when everyone is more relaxed and not so rushed. Maybe it’s a conversation by the campfire or at the beach – just be sure to let your teen know that the lines of communication are open, and don’t pressure them to talk.
#4: Ask meaningful questions to get meaningful answers
We often want to ask our teens, “What were you thinking?!”, but to get them to talk, ask other questions like:
- How do you feel about that?
- Which friendships are important to you?
- What is one thing you want to improve on next year? Can I help you with that?
- How can I better support you?
This year, the YES Prep Class of 2022 shared in their exit surveys that their families are the number one influence in their educational journeys. They need your support. They need your guidance. They need YOU.
Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
