As a child we shouldn’t ever wish for our parents to divorce or separate which wasn’t common when I was a child. But if it had been then my parents should have as all they did was argue.
Staying together for the kids isn’t the best option. I’m a verdict of that adage and would never do that to my son. I ‘ve told Charlie this from the time he was old enough to understand because he see’s his friends parents staying together this and it’s hurting the kids.
By no means is my relationship with my husband perfect but were not going to get a Divorce ever but I’ve told Charlie that if we do it’s fine and in no, way would be his fault.
I’ve also stressed when he get’s married if he is unhappy and things don’t seem to be working out to not put his children through what my sister, brother and I went through. As it’s wrong.
Charlie has been trying to help his friend deal with his parents who are going through a divorce. I was worried about how their children would be affected and how we could help them.
Charlie and I sat down and read Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce: Putting Your Children First (American Academy of Pediatrics; June 16, 2020).
After reading Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce: Charlie was calmer and not so stressed out. Charlie even shared information from the book with his friend who became calmer and wasn’t as stressed out.
I asked his parents if they wanted to read Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce: Putting Your Children First (American Academy of Pediatrics which would help them prepare the other children and they did and said this new novel was a Godsend for there family.
Retired CA Superior Court Child Custody Mediator Jann Blackstone, Psy.D. (media features include Oprah, Good Morning America and more) and Pediatrician David Hill, MD, FAAP (media features include The New York Times, The Washington Post, Parents, Men’s Health and more) help parents shepherd their children through divorce with expertise built from decades of professional practice and sensitivity developed from their own experiences as parents who are themselves divorced and actively co-parenting with exes.
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From sharing the news with children in an age-appropriate way to handling the issue of custody, and from concerns about affairs or abuse to embarking on remarriage and blending families, Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce offers a roadmap through one of life’s most difficult challenges, with the goal of healthy, happy kids informing every decision along the way.
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Jann Blackstone, PsyD is a retired child custody mediator for the Superior Court of California and the founder of Bonus Families. She is the author of six books on divorce, remarriage, and co-parenting and a nationally syndicated weekly newspaper column, “Ex-etiquette.” She currently resides in Phoenix, AZ, and has four children—two biological, two bonus.
David Hill, MD, FAAP is a hospitalist pediatrician at Goldsboro Pediatrics, Adjunct Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the University Of North Carolina School of Medicine, a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Council Management Committee, and Associate Editor of Pediatric Care Online Patient Education for the AAP. He writes and lectures nationally and internationally on pediatric topics including media use, fatherhood, and family separation.
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Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
